Coping with Death and Embracing New Beginnings

In February of 2021, I unexpectedly said goodbye to my mother. Even though I had said goodbye several times over the years as she slowly began to drift away from Alzheimer’s Disease, I was still not prepared to lose her completely.

Although I help others heal through grief and loss, and have personally experienced loss myself, nothing truly prepared me for the emptiness that my mother’s passing left behind.

So I begin my own personal journey toward healing. I found a local atrium filled with tropical flowers and plants and sat for hours over days on rocks hidden from view. Sometimes I sat and cried, reflecting on my mother’s life and her death. I felt alone, lost, and abandoned. Then I began to notice the new growth that surrounded me. Even in the middle of a cold endless winter, new life, new beginnings were there.

My mother had passed, and although sad, I realized that life is a cycle of birth and death. The plants were a reminder that life never ends, it continues, blossoms and grows. My mom had transformed her frail, worn body into a beautiful angel’s trumpet flower that hung next to me on a nearby tree.

One day, a college girl came in and started working, labeling plants and fauna. On the way out, I asked her about the beautiful trumpet tree. It had a single, light pink flower.

“Does the tree blossom all year round?” I asked.

“It blooms when it’s stressed.” she replied. Right now it has water and everything it needs so there is only one flower.” It’s called the Angel’s Trumpet.

My heart melted. I was also blossoming while stressed and the Angel’s Trumpet flower was a reminder that my mom’s death meant that she too, was blooming and growing, along with me.

Love you mom!

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I have thoroughly enjoyed blogging about both my own journey, as well as that of other’s that I have met along the way over the past several years.

At this time, I have decided to stop posting on this site, but will continue blogging about health and wellness, healing, cooking, humor, travel and creative expression on my new website below.

I hope that my posts have brought a smile to your face, a giggle to your lips, or healing to your heart in some way. I look forward to continuing this journey with you, if you so choose. Blog posts are listed under “self-help” in the menu. Thank you all for being a part of my journey and I hope that many of you will continue to explore our everyday lives together.

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A Life Restricted

For those of us who live in northern climates, the transition into a lengthy cold and dark period may be especially difficult as the pandemic continues to spread and increase in numbers across the nation.

So how do we survive a life that feels more restricted than ever? Making the transition may not be easy, but this is the time in our lives when we can stop running, wasting our time on meaningless activities, fix what is broken and release what no longer serves us.

As humans, life is not perfect, and sometimes during changes and extremely hard transitions, there are gifts in the darkness, like diamonds in the raw, waiting for us to find them.

I challenge you during these times to re-invent yourself, re-discover your passions, and let go of who or what no longer serves you. Use this time to make the most out of your life. Each day offers a new beginning. As life continues to feel restrictive, use it as an opportunity to let your authentic self shine.

Consulting Clouds LLC Healing body, mind and spirit.

Fall Chaos

I’ve noticed over the years that fall seems to be a time of significant change for many.  There appears to be a lot of loss, health issues and abrupt endings, and with the pandemic in full swing, numbers are increasing nationwide making a difficult time of the year even more challenging.

As the leaves begin to fall and the earth prepares to go into dormancy for the long winter months, this is a time to let go of what is no longer needed.  Sometimes we make those changes ourselves and other times it is forced upon us as we say goodbye to people we love, health issues arise or things are out of our control.

Fall is a time of endings and beginnings. It is a paradox of beauty and pain.  In the northern hemisphere we see less light in the sky, the plants fade and return to the earth, and our bodies, minds and spirit adjust to all the changes.  Some people long for the cold dark winter skies and others crave sunshine.  Wherever you are in life, embrace it, allow what needs to fall away or leave your life go, and find joy and beauty in what is there.  Together we can help each other through this season of changes.

Be grateful for today as tomorrow may be totally different.

 

How to Heal Yourself

Theta Healing is a meditational process that creates physical, psychological and spiritual healing. Using a combination of psychotherapy and energy work, change can occur quickly in many areas of life including, health and wellness, relationships, career, recovery and spiritual direction.

Not everyone desires to work through a lengthy therapy process, or has the time. Theta healing works on changing negative or limiting beliefs that prevent you from being successful or from making the necessary changes that you want to make that prevent you from living your best life possible. Theta healing can create change quickly at a subconscious level.

Everyone’s path to healing is uniquely different and individual.  As a Certified Theta Healer and Licensed Professional Counselor, my passion is helping people to heal in the areas of health and wellness, relationship conflict, career change, grief and loss, and addictions and recovery.

 

 

Living Green House

The natural environment has always been a place of healing for me.  Starting in childhood, I spent my days roaming and exploring open fields, small forests and the world around me.  Nature has always been healing for me and a natural place of stress management as I have grown older.

I spend hours in nature each day, taking walks and cycling through the nature reserve. I also take many trips a year to distant lands that are dramatically geographically different than the place I live in.  I love the energy that mountains bring, the serenity and peace that the ocean gives me, and can never get enough of the solitude of the desert.

I currently live in a cold climate and due to the restriction on travel at this time or possibly in the near future, I am seeking a local natural retreat that I can go to when the weather outside is dead and frozen.   I have never been a fan of snow and struggle in the fall when everything starts to die and begins the long transformation to dormancy.  I miss my beautiful flowers, bees and dragonflies and come alive when I travel to a new and warmer environments.

So this summer’s search has resulted in an unexpected find.  At my local university, I discovered a new building with an atrium.  As I was biking past, I stopped to look in the window and saw a waterfall, a royal palm tree, beautiful tropical flowers and plants.  I was so excited to find my winter retreat at a nearby local spot!  Although I still plan on traveling nationally, things are not yet what they used to be and my travel will be limited this year, but at least now I have a tropical sanctuary to help me feel alive when everything around me this winter appears to be dead and lifeless.

If you also struggle with winter blues or miss the great outdoors but can’t get out because of extreme weather or piles of snow, check your local community for a green house, a planetarium, an atrium , art gallery or museum.  So many ways to feel alive when dark winter days set in!

Mother Earth Medicine

April is usually a hiking month for me somewhere on this beautiful planet, but not this year as I stay indoors in isolating due to the pandemic, but it makes me appreciate and value nature even more.  Hiking has always been a way for me to feel whole.  Mother earth heals body, mind and spirit.  there is no medicine more powerful than nature.

Today being Earth Day, we celebrate our beautiful planet in isolation. This year is different as we are forced to slow down and reflect on how we impact our world.  With restrictions on materialism and consumerism, many of us are spending time in nature at home, gardening, cooking and observing.

Today I want to celebrate Earth Day with everyone in isolation by challenging you to plant some seeds, hug a tree, take a walk, watch the birds or squirrels and say thank you.

We all live on one planet.  Let’s celebrate it, take care of it and keep it alive.

Everyday I Love You

Telling people we love them isn’t always easy when we get angry or upset with them.  Sometimes in life we are not given a second chance to forgive but have to live with unspoken words.

Tell someone today that you love them.  Today is all we have.

I love you!

Drum Circle Power

I recently attended and completed a Drum Circle Facilitators Training that required 20 hours of extensive drum circle facilitation. It was one of the best experiences of my life. I witnessed the power of healing, the joy and energy that drumming creates ,and heard powerful stories of healing.

Drumming creates powerful energy that vibrationallly lifts your spirit, makes you happy and takes you on a journey.

I’m in the process of creating a drum circle in my local community, as well as in my work as a Consultant.  Healing is often considered a painful process, but it can also be a fun, creative, and magical experience!

 

Searching Sedona

I just came back from a day trip to  Sedona, Arizona, one of the most beautiful spots in this country.  Surrounded by red rocks, whirling vortexes and positive energy, I was able to spend the day hiking up Bell Rock.  Although it’s wintertime, the temperature was perfect for hiking, not too hot, not too cold, and because of the season, the number of tourists was very low.

Bell Rock is one of the larger vortex sites in Sedona. Vortexes are concentrations of energy spiraling upward from the Earth. As you climb the rock, you can see tree trunks that are twisted, a visual sign that energy is present.  Vortex sites are known to have physical and spiritual healing properties and there are a number of them present in Sedona.  Whether or not you believe, you can certainly feel something is different in this part of the world.

As far as when to travel, summer has beautiful weather, but if you want to avoid the crowds, winter or early spring is perfect as you can experience more solitude and still have sunny skies.  All you need is a light jacket and a water bladder or bottle and you are good to go.